May 10, 2004 at 12:25 pm #645278
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Have you ever been guilty of staying in a relationship for the wrong reasons? I have.
Looking back in retrospect, I realize how damaging this was to myself and my significant other. Sure we had all the attributes of a relationship. Holding hands in public, cuddling, dinners, movies, social events…intimate moments. I was fortunate to have been able to experience that.
But deep down, beyond the pleasures and conveniences of a relationship, long after the sparks are gone and the honeymoon stage is over, there was a sense of emptiness, a lack of substance. It is that emptiness that is often overlooked because it becomes so buried underneath everything else. Co-dependancy was one of my main causes for losing sight of what really mattered to me. My need to feel needed, to be wanted, to love, be loved and have a sense of purpose. But then reality sets in and you’re left to ask yourself, “Is this it?”
I see this in alot of people including myself. And I commend those who are strong enough to realize it and actually do something about it, instead of just moving along which ever way the emotional winds blow.May 10, 2004 at 12:31 pm #645282
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I’ve never been in your situation, but i’ve seen many of my friends go through this. after many years of being in a relationship…it all comes to nothing in the end.May 10, 2004 at 12:42 pm #645284
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Same here! 😀
Again, I rather be alone then being in an unhappy relationship!
[i]Originally posted by SourXappLe[/i]
I’ve never been in your situation, but i’ve seen many of my friends go through this. after many years of being in a relationship…it all comes to nothing in the end.May 10, 2004 at 3:55 pm #645287
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two words …
DINING DEADSMay 10, 2004 at 5:20 pm #645292
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Find yourself first before you get lost in a relationship. A lot of us are guilty of losing ourselves in a relationship. Throughout life, we go through a search for our identity. This search is often interrupted by tragic events, relationships, and our tribulations. Powm, no matter how much it hurts, you’ll learn something about yourself. Something that will mold your character.