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    How do you know if someone really wants to be with you because they care/love you? I’m having a hard time telling if someone is interest in me not just for their own benefit.

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    If the person appears to be in control of their life and finances i.e they have a job and don’t need you to pay for things; chances are they are not with you for the wrong reasons. Mind you monetary gain is not the only kind of benefit that someone could use you for.

    [Message last modified 02-25-2012 02:59am by MissFoxyL]

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    the question that all kc have in the back of their mind is….who are u hooking up with? :D

    [i]Originally posted by rexa[/i]
    How do you know if someone really wants to be with you because they care/love you? I’m having a hard time telling if someone is interest in me not just for their own benefit.

    #1226648
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    If you have a hard time finding out the question to this. Eliminate yourself from the equation. Are you insecure yourself? Do you think you have qualities worth finding out?

    [i]Originally posted by rexa[/i]
    How do you know if someone really wants to be with you because they care/love you? I’m having a hard time telling if someone is interest in me not just for their own benefit.

    #1226650
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    Unfortunately, he has nothing. Financially I’m OK…Nothing to brag about. Part of me is telling me that I’m walking backward with this guy but the other part of me tells me we have something great. There’s lots of potential to make something out of nothing.

    I guess I have been feeling somewhat insecure because people are saying I’m going crazy getting into this relationship. A major part of me says, Who cares what people says.

    That this point I guess I have to follow my heart and hope my heart does not lead me down the wrong path.

    [i]Originally posted by MissFoxyL[/i]
    If the person appears to be in control of their life and finances i.e they have a job and don’t need you to pay for things; chances are they are not with you for the wrong reasons. Mind you monetary gain is not the only kind of benefit that someone could use you for.

    [Message last modified 02-25-2012 02:59am by MissFoxyL]

    #1226652
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    Saren, you will find out sooner or later. He does not come in KC. I know this guy since High School. He’s not a total stranger.

    [i]Originally posted by AhSaren[/i]
    the question that all kc have in the back of their mind is….who are u hooking up with? :D
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    [i]Originally posted by rexa[/i]
    How do you know if someone really wants to be with you because they care/love you? I’m having a hard time telling if someone is interest in me not just for their own benefit.

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    Hi Rexa you’ve answered your own question. Who cares what others think they are not in your shoes; if it feels right do it and if he is trying(doesn’t insist on going places even though he doesn’t have money) then just concentrate on being happy with him.

    [i]Originally posted by rexa[/i]
    Unfortunately, he has nothing. Financially I’m OK…Nothing to brag about. Part of me is telling me that I’m walking backward with this guy but the other part of me tells me we have something great. There’s lots of potential to make something out of nothing.

    I guess I have been feeling somewhat insecure because people are saying I’m going crazy getting into this relationship. A major part of me says, Who cares what people says.

    That this point I guess I have to follow my heart and hope my heart does not lead me down the wrong path.

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    [i]Originally posted by MissFoxyL[/i]
    If the person appears to be in control of their life and finances i.e they have a job and don’t need you to pay for things; chances are they are not with you for the wrong reasons. Mind you monetary gain is not the only kind of benefit that someone could use you for.

    [Message last modified 02-25-2012 02:59am by MissFoxyL]

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    #1226656
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    I guess am somewhat insecure because I have been hurt before and people already thinks am crazy to even consider this guy.

    On the other hand, I confidence I have what it takes to make our relationship great as long as this person is completely honest with me. Honestly is what I believe is a key to a healthy relationship. Without honestly, I would not be able to make the right choice for me.

    [i]Originally posted by meah_jeang[/i]
    If you have a hard time finding out the question to this. Eliminate yourself from the equation. Are you insecure yourself? Do you think you have qualities worth finding out?

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    [i]Originally posted by rexa[/i]
    How do you know if someone really wants to be with you because they care/love you? I’m having a hard time telling if someone is interest in me not just for their own benefit.

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    #1226658
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    Thanks MissFoxy!! As you can tell I have been thinking a lot about this. I’m asking for options because I don’t want to be one of those person who is so blinded by love that it has clouds their judgment.

    Originally posted by MissFoxyL
    Hi Rexa you’ve answered your own question. Who cares what others think they are not in your shoes; if it feels right do it and if he is trying(doesn’t insist on going places even though he doesn’t have money) then just concentrate on being happy with him.

    #1226660
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    well what I was trying to get at is that, what do you have to gain/lose by being with him. What does he have to gain/lose by being with you? Don’t sell yourself short is the point on my convo. Make sure you CAN see a future, unless you just want to have fun and date. Otherwise, you’re committing yourself to someone and maybe closing doors for others who see you as a possibility.

    [i]Originally posted by rexa[/i]
    I guess am somewhat insecure because I have been hurt before and people already thinks am crazy to even consider this guy.

    On the other hand, I confidence I have what it takes to make our relationship great as long as this person is completely honest with me. Honestly is what I believe is a key to a healthy relationship. Without honestly, I would not be able to make the right choice for me.

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    [i]Originally posted by meah_jeang[/i]
    If you have a hard time finding out the question to this. Eliminate yourself from the equation. Are you insecure yourself? Do you think you have qualities worth finding out?

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    [i]Originally posted by rexa[/i]
    How do you know if someone really wants to be with you because they care/love you? I’m having a hard time telling if someone is interest in me not just for their own benefit.

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