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  • #246586
    Avatar of Th3vada_PL3ung
    Th3vada_PL3ung
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    Does being in a relationship while studying affect on your performance in school?

    Share us your success or blunder stories when it comes to relationship and school.

    #246600
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    majesticgyrl
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    No, actually not at all. Maybe in college it might, but not in grad school. Most, if not everyone in my school, my program and field of studies are either 1.) in a relationship…meaning they have a gf or bf 2.) engaged 3.) Married and majority are married with children. Well, that’s cause the age range is 23-56 for people in my grad program, so yeah it’s actually ABNORMAL if you are not in a relationship, since 99% of everyone I know, including all my colleagues are either married w/ kids or are in a long-term relationship.

    Nobody said relationships are easy, it requires lots of understanding, compromise and communication…but don’t be in one if you can’t handle it. You always have to remember your priority and never lose focus on what’s important. I think it’s solely up to you and the other person to work things out, but school should definitely come first. Then again, what do I know? I’m a late bloomer. I didn’t even date until I was 20. lol.

    [i]Originally posted by Th3vada_PL3ung[/i]
    Does being in a relationship while studying affect on your performance in school?

    Share us your success or blunder stories when it comes to relationship and school.

    #246610
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    RotaryBoy
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    I think it does. Although I wasn’t in a relationship when I was in school.
    My friend’s study time drop in Hs since he starting seeing this girl… too much time spent on the phone so he decide to just focus on school.

    College, broke… girls are expensive, even the cheapest one… college student are bums already. I started sating toward the end of college, it didn’t affect my school work since I was chillin most at the end :P

    You ever heard of guys who have a girl while they are in med school, someone to help them study and stuff and once they graduate and becomes a doctor, they would dump the chick to get someone better?

    When my mom was in school, her time has to be used to study and it affected the household.

    If you are the type of person that require a lot of studying and want to do great at school. Spend most of their time studying, relationship will affect it. It depend on the s.o. if they can handle less of you or not. some put up with it no matter what.

    But if you are the type of person who doesn’t spend much time studying and stuff, relationship won’t do much.

    oh yea, I have a friend who’s going to grad school, don’t see him much cuz he’s either working or studying.

    [i]Originally posted by Th3vada_PL3ung[/i]
    Does being in a relationship while studying affect on your performance in school?

    Share us your success or blunder stories when it comes to relationship and school.

    [Message last modified 01-22-2007 01:19pm by RotaryBoy]

    #246623
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    very wise young lady you are. ;)

    [i]Originally posted by majesticgyrl[/i]
    No, actually not at all. Maybe in college it might, but not in grad school. Most, if not everyone in my school, my program and field of studies are either 1.) in a relationship…meaning they have a gf or bf 2.) engaged 3.) Married and majority are married with children. Well, that’s cause the age range is 23-56 for people in my grad program, so yeah it’s actually ABNORMAL if you are not in a relationship, since 99% of everyone I know, including all my colleagues are either married w/ kids or are in a long-term relationship.

    Nobody said relationships are easy, it requires lots of understanding, compromise and communication…but don’t be in one if you can’t handle it. You always have to remember your priority and never lose focus on what’s important. I think it’s solely up to you and the other person to work things out, but school should definitely come first. Then again, what do I know? I’m a late bloomer. I didn’t even date until I was 20. lol.
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    [i]Originally posted by Th3vada_PL3ung[/i]
    Does being in a relationship while studying affect on your performance in school?

    Share us your success or blunder stories when it comes to relationship and school.

    [/quote]

    #246634
    Avatar of Th3vada_PL3ung
    Th3vada_PL3ung
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    i need sex, i need love
    all i think about at school
    is sex and love

    #246645
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    majesticgyrl
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    Thanks Mystic….I’ve never had a bf until I was 20 and even then wasn’t even in a serious relationship….I chose to take it slow and just be friends….until grad school, I always put school first and foremost…because my Dad taught me since young that your education is going to feed you, love isn’t going to feed you so like I never cared about relationships, therefore was a late bloomer…and was the last one out of all my friends to have a bf….and even now they still make fun of me….but whatever. lol

    #246657
    Avatar of majesticgyrl
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    Majority of my friends who are in my program are all married with four kids, and sometimes I help them change their kids’ diapers too. LOL! And we’re talking about Doctoral students here….you wonder how they juggle marriage, family and kids all while attending school full-time and obtaining their doctor’s degree.

    I personally think it’s wise not to date until you’re ready, especially in college…..often times most people grow so dependent and they lose track or focus on their studies. I think it’s important to be independent and never lose track of your goals due to and because of love & relationships…some people obsess or go crazy over it and when things crumble, it effects their school work because their emotional well-being is at stake…..so really think about it, for you young ones who just started college or whatever. Of course in the end, everyone wants to be in love at some point in their lives…it’s only normal and natural for most people to want to find and have that special someone who they can eventually spend their lives with until the day they die, but like you don’t have to rush it….really think about the consequences, seriously. If you can’t handle the good & bad that comes with being in a relationship….shouldn’t be in one in the first place. You don’t want to do things that you might regret later on in life, so look before you leap. In grad school, it’s a whole different world…like most students range in age level from 22-60….so some might even have grandkids already ya know? lol. So yeah, a relationship in grad school is nothing new or unusual.

    The best part though is if you have someone who shares the same passion or similar goals as yourself then it’s cool cause you can help push each other, motivate each other to do well in school. ‘Norm knear kom rean sot, chouy jrom jreang knear knong kah suksah dombay anakot la-or’. :)

    Originally posted by mystic
    very wise young lady you are. ;)

    Originally posted by majesticgyrl
    No, actually not at all. Maybe in college it might, but not in grad school. Most, if not everyone in my school, my program and field of studies are either 1.) in a relationship…meaning they have a gf or bf 2.) engaged 3.) Married and majority are married with children. Well, that’s cause the age range is 23-56 for people in my grad program, so yeah it’s actually ABNORMAL if you are not in a relationship, since 99% of everyone I know, including all my colleagues are either married w/ kids or are in a long-term relationship.

    Nobody said relationships are easy, it requires lots of understanding, compromise and communication…but don’t be in one if you can’t handle it. You always have to remember your priority and never lose focus on what’s important. I think it’s solely up to you and the other person to work things out, but school should definitely come first. Then again, what do I know? I’m a late bloomer. I didn’t even date until I was 20. lol.

    Originally posted by Th3vada_PL3ung
    Does being in a relationship while studying affect on your performance in school?

    Share us your success or blunder stories when it comes to relationship and school.

    [Message last modified 01-22-2007 01:20pm by majesticgyrl]

    #246669
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    souljourner
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    At the High School level, I do see this dilemma with some of my students. They get into a relationship and their grades start to slip. Their attendance slide a bit too — quite a bit for some. I have had to pull some of these students aside to have a one on one discussion with what is going on in their lives. My advice to them always is: drop the relationship or find someone who is also into school.

    [i]Originally posted by Th3vada_PL3ung[/i]
    Does being in a relationship while studying affect on your performance in school?

    Share us your success or blunder stories when it comes to relationship and school.

    [Message last modified 01-22-2007 02:34pm by souljourner]

    #246681
    Avatar of Th3vada_PL3ung
    Th3vada_PL3ung
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    Souljourner are you a teacher?

    [i]Originally posted by souljourner[/i]
    At the High School level, I do see this dilemma with some of my students. They get into a relationship and their grades start to slip. Their attendance slide a bit too — quite a bit for some. I have had to pull some of these students aside to have a one on one discussion with what is going on in their lives. My advice to them always is: drop the relationship or find someone who is also into school.

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    [i]Originally posted by Th3vada_PL3ung[/i]
    Does being in a relationship while studying affect on your performance in school?

    Share us your success or blunder stories when it comes to relationship and school.

    [Message last modified 01-22-2007 02:34pm by souljourner][/quote]

    #246691
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    souljourner
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    yes i am. high school.

    Originally posted by Th3vada_PL3ung
    Souljourner are you a teacher?

    Originally posted by souljourner

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