Sex vs. Abstinence????????????

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  • #3572
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    Well , well, after reading what khmernutz wrote. I feel sad. Why are young khmer people having sex!!!!Females or males!!! IT DOESN’T MATTER OKAY. YOU MUST KEEP YOURSELF PURE UNTIL MARRIAGE. YOU DON’T HAVE TO TAKE MY WORD FOR IT, BUT RESPECT YOURSELF and your body OKAY. MY THOUGHTS ON SEX, i think sex is a gift. It should not just be given to any man that easily, i think it is something that is worth waiting to give to the man you wed. Cambodian girls like me are brought up to stay pure until marriage. My parents emphasize that since I was little. They told me i am very precious jewel. I love my body and I respect myself. I think ABSTINENCE IS THE BEST THING. 100% AFFECTIVE AGAIN ALL STD’S AND AIDS. whY put yourself at risk especially in college, it’s disgusting to see so many people having sex as if it’s something casual. And girls out there, if a guy really loves you, he will be willing to wait. GUys, what is more valueable to you , love or sex?? I think most guys would answer love. Who wouldn’t want love. So girls, think before you get in bed with guy. IS it worth it?? What are the consequences?? Any regrets afterwards?? Pregancy??? Unprotected sex can result in pregnancy that easily!!!! There will only be a first time!!!!So believe me,the wait is worth it. That’s just MY THOUGHT I don’t want to offend anyone. Guys, same goes for you okay.

    PURE UNTIL MARRIAGE,
    kITryNA

    #3591
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    You sure are keeping yourself busy on our boards. If only our other members followed in your footsteps. : ) As for your topic, I have this to say. Sex does not guarantee love. What it can guarantee is a surprise 9 months later. So preach on Kit!! Well I would love to expand on my thoughts but it is Friday night and it’s calling my name. A reva derche KC’ers. Go have fun!!!!!

    “How many times have I laid at night waiting for you to say the word”

    #3608
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    muahaha.. i thought that i was good at making jokes.. but apparently kitryna is a lot better..:)

    #3624
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    speed24get
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    sex is a wedding gift from god so don’t unwrap that gift yet until it’s time, okay? hehe

    #3642
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    I’m a virgin myself, and i totally support the fact that you’re gonna save yourself for marriage, but then again, i’mma save myself for love or marriage, but love definitely comes first…It’s hard being a virgin, not because girls are just throwing themselves at me left and right, but because of “the look” that people give me when i tell them that i’m a virgin…i hate that look, haha…anyways, pete has spoken…-Pete-

    #3658
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    Sex vs. Abstinence

    Well, being abstinence is good b/c no sex and no baby too. I agree with all the khmer sreys in her. Do you know about safe sex???? Ladies who read my reply can you tell me? Do your mom ever tell you about birth control pills or any other safe sex method. I Guess Not!!!! As for us in this new generation that grew up in U.S parents tent to hide about talking to their children about sex. They think that it disrespectful. Ladies who prefre to have sex they are more careful then ladies that never. That why many teenage khmer girls get marry at a very young b/c of not knowing how to protect themself then wake up being pregnant the next day. Do you agree with me???

    #3674
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    [i]Originally posted by PeteRock[/i]
    [b]I’m a virgin myself, and i totally support the fact that you’re gonna save yourself for marriage, but then again, i’mma save myself for love or marriage, but love definitely comes first…It’s hard being a virgin, not because girls are just throwing themselves at me left and right, but because of “the look” that people give me when i tell them that i’m a virgin…i hate that look, haha…anyways, pete has spoken…-Pete-[/b]

    A virgin this dawn age. Let me guess you r a Homosexual. Girls throwing themselves at you left and right and you didn’t do anythings about it you must be a Homo.GAy bar scene man!!!Gay bar!!

    #3691
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    [i]Originally posted by tsoun[/i]
    [b]

    A virgin this dawn age. Let me guess you r a Homosexual. Girls throwing themselves at you left and right and you didn’t do anythings about it you must be a Homo.GAy bar scene man!!!Gay bar!![/b]

    Ya know, I for one respect PeteRock’s decision to abstain from having sex.
    The choice to engage in sexual intercourse is a personal one that each of us must make for ourselves according to our own morals and code of ethics. No one has the right to place judgement or criticism on others for the choices that they do make because it’s their life…not yours. Calling him a homosexual is both an insult to him and to actual gay people. You’re implying that being gay is a negative thing that society shuns upon. People who think like you do are responsible for the proliferation and resiliency of these narrow-minded prejudices.

    Sex means different things to different people. Some casually give it away to any willing party like coupons from the Sunday paper. Others, like Pete and I, choose to romanticize it, elevating sex to something more intimate and meaningful than a random romp in the hay. And there are others who are just straight out paranoid of the mere thought of getting naked. All of these categories exist in people…and neither of these is superior to the other…nor are any of them right or wrong per se. The only person who can make that judgement call is the individual. If you’ve found someone who you want to give your virginity to, then that’s awesome, more power to you because you made that call. If you wanna have sex like bunnies with anyTHING that has the necessary “equipment”, fine, it’s up to you and is therefore of no consequence to me. Indulge all you like, so long as it’s consensual. But don’t turn around and ridicule others for their decisions. Reciprocity is the core of respect.

    If someone chooses to wait, it doesn’t belittle their manhood in any way, if anything, it probably asserts it that much more. Who do you think is the stronger person….one who succumbs to all temptation, regardless of the source (I stress the word, REGARDLESS). Or the one who can wield his self-control thereby solidifying his adherence to his convictions. Both are equally as attracted and horny…but one is definitely testing himself to a greater degree…saving the experience for someone he feels that he can share that act with. For those of you men and women out there who’ve been in those hot and heavily passionate situations where sex was imminent…it’s totally a hard thing to back away from. It really challenges your resolve.

    So no more of this “you’re a pussy” or “you’re not a man” crap from any of you out there who think less of virgins for their choices. We’re all sexual beings…we just act on our instincts at different times.

    LUCID

    P.s. I have a lot of respect for Pete. He doesn’t drink, smoke, or do drugs.
    Not that people who do those things in moderation are bad people (as a whole, anyways), it’s
    just that I think it’s cool for someone to walk his own path of
    refusal and sobriety. It’s tough…especially in today’s world..

    #3707
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    The Year is 2001…they still make guys who are virgins? Amazing, i’ll hump anything that moves. Play on Playa..Play on. Just think of it this way..i’m practicing before i get married. So when i am married my wife won’t cheat on me cuz i suck in bed..it will happen to you. Nice guys finish last..(hey haven’t we discussed that already?)

    #3726
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    I’m a virgin too..everytime i meet a new girl..haha i’m so evil..

    #3740
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    [i]Originally posted by Redcambino[/i]
    [b]The Year is 2001…they still make guys who are virgins? Amazing, i’ll hump anything that moves. Play on Playa..Play on. Just think of it this way..i’m practicing before i get married. So when i am married my wife won’t cheat on me cuz i suck in bed..it will happen to you. Nice guys finish last..(hey haven’t we discussed that already?)[/b]

    Exactly…we finish LAST…which means we LAST LONGER :) *winks*

    LUCID

    P.s. Sex is the least of my worries in maintaining and sustaining a relationship with my wife. Just because I’m a virgin doesn’t mean I’m inexperienced….buddy. If your wife cheats on you because of sex…then I think you’ll have bigger issues and insecurities than I ever will.

    #3758
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    *pats Lucid on da back* Man u spelt it all out right here for me. Thanx for savin me finger work ;)

    And Pete, i’ve got a lot of respect 4 ya. okay okay u deserve one also *pats Pete on da back*

    #3776
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    Darina
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    The best form of protection for sex is NO SEX. Abstinence.

    #3790
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    [i]Originally posted by Lucid-Dreamz[/i]
    [b][quote]
    [i]Originally posted by tsoun[/i]
    [b]

    A virgin this dawn age. Let me guess you r a Homosexual. Girls throwing themselves at you left and right and you didn’t do anythings about it you must be a Homo.GAy bar scene man!!!Gay bar!![/b]

    P.s. I have a lot of respect for Pete. He doesn’t drink, smoke, or do drugs.
    Not that people who do those things in moderation are bad people (as a whole, anyways), it’s
    just that I think it’s cool for someone to walk his own path of
    refusal and sobriety. It’s tough…especially in today’s world..[/b][/quote]

    Wow!!So sentimental about your boyz. I’m wondering just wondering…..

    #3809
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    *applauds* you took the words right out of my mouth, it’s dope knowing that i’m not the only one who chooses to keep their virginity. It’s also dope that you responded, sometimes i don’t have my way with words, and obviously you do, which is kewl cuz you can speak for those that can’t.I commend all virgins here cuz it’s hard nowadays with all these A-holes who think they’re kewl cuz they lost theirs. To that tsoun guy, you can say whatever the hell you want, but i love girls. When me and my ex were together, we fooled around in bed, but, i chose NOT to have sex, because i respect myself and my future wife that much.

    You may say all the crap you want, but in the end, i will still walk away with my self esteem and dignity. Well i ain’t mad, you live your life and i’ll live mines, but it’ll be so much easier with less name calling…

    -Pete-

    #3826
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    NeAnGxShAi
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    I fOr One, am a VirGin myseLf and damn prOud Of it. As Of right nOw, I think sex is nasty. In the Long run, I wiLL prObabLy die a virgin.

    #3845
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    [i]Originally posted by PeteRock[/i]
    [b]*applauds* you took the words right out of my mouth, it’s dope knowing that i’m not the only one who chooses to keep their virginity. It’s also dope that you responded, sometimes i don’t have my way with words, and obviously you do, which is kewl cuz you can speak for those that can’t.I commend all virgins here cuz it’s hard nowadays with all these A-holes who think they’re kewl cuz they lost theirs. To that tsoun guy, you can say whatever the hell you want, but i love girls. When me and my ex were together, we fooled around in bed, but, i chose NOT to have sex, because i respect myself and my future wife that much.

    You may say all the crap you want, but in the end, i will still walk away with my self esteem and dignity. Well i ain’t mad, you live your life and i’ll live mines, but it’ll be so much easier with less name calling…

    -Pete-[/b]

    Hey Pete,
    I’ve been reading many articles in this site. I must say your name pop out the most..First of all, I just wanted to say only a real man with high dignity like you are considered loyal,and a true man to every women out there.

    #3863
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    [i]Originally posted by tsoun[/i]
    [b]

    Wow!!So sentimental about your boyz. I’m wondering just wondering…..[/b]

    So what are you saying? You don’t stick up for your boys? You don’t have your friend’s backs when they need you because if you were to do so, people would surely peg you as exhibiting homosexual tendencies? Now there’s some spurious thinking. Or are you suggesting something more serious…that you don’t have the guts to defend someone you don’t know? Or that you’re not strong enough to stand up for an ideal?

    It takes a lot for people to admit something personal about themselves because it leaves them open to criticism…especially in terms of expressing modes of thought that are contrary to the popular, peer-driven stream of thinking. Just because I happen to agree with PeteRock’s views is immaterial because the fact still remains that we are adults and should therefore act as such. Everyone’s opinions are different, but we need to respect them. I don’t care if you agree or disagree, but it makes a difference that you treat other’s views just as you would treat your own. That’s the main reason I chose to defend him and, as I stated before, because he’s a good guy.

    Do you think you’re cool for making a mockery of other’s choices? Do you think you’re cool because you’ve had sex and can brag about it? Why do you even feel the need to brag about it? Do you require the validation of your peers to boost your own self worth? I’ll tell you what tsoun, you can wonder ALL you want about whatever the hell you want, because I’ll be wondering if you’re a spineless follower more concerned with fitting in than STANDING OUT.

    LUCID

    #3881
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    PeteRock- Play on Playa
    Lucid- Play on Playa

    You guys make me wish i was a virgin..

    #3897
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    [i]Originally posted by Lucid-Dreamz[/i]
    [b]….because I’ll be wondering if you’re a spineless follower more concerned with fitting in than STANDING OUT….[/b]

    Hey, don’t worry guys, tsoun will deal with the drama of his baby’s mama. :)
    lets just see who’s the ‘REAL’ man around here.

    #3912
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    i think virginity is also over rated by those who believes they’re still “pure” in the sense that they did not participate in actual penis-vagina penentration…the big Q: what about oral?…(and) other forms of sexual intercourse?

    #3928
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    Without acting on our feeling does it not overwhelm us? People who have sex are experienced, but the ones who had not will always think about it. (Socrates) I did not chose abstinence, but it chosed me. I might fall in love with their beauty, but that is not true love. It might lasts decades, but they are still out of reach. Faces that I have passionately fell in love with will only flash back and then leave. Sometimes it takes so many days or months to forget them. They maybe out of my mind, but my heart says otherwise.

    #3944
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    I remember during high school when we had these student mediators or something talk to us about sex and all that, etc. They kept on preaching abstinence is good, that we should wait till we find the one, etc.

    I agree that abstinence is very effective in getting STD’s (after all you aren’t having sex with anyone, unless it’s with yourself) you won’t get any diseases.

    The problem that I see is the fact that if you don’t have any experience, how do you expect to know what to do? This was a problem hundreds of years ago during the Victorian era when newly married couples didn’t even know what to do when it came to sex. The reason is because they weren’t educated and had no experience in it.

    What if you wait till you are in your late 20′s, early 30′s till you have sex? By this time women are already at their sexual peak.

    For the men, the women might see this as a problem. I doubt that she will have to explain time to the guy what to do, etc. Especially when the heat is on, you just don’t have time for that. She will most likely be turned off by the fact that you are clueless when it came to sex.

    Sure, there is the chance that us guys can find a virgin female out there (as there are some, as indicated with this thread) but the reality is that they aren’t a dime a dozen. In this today’s society teens are sexually active before they even enter high school.

    I’m not trying to change your views or anything. If you want to remain abstinent, that’s your choice. I’m just giving you something to think about.

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