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    pimpdaddy
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    PLEASE HELP, ADVICE:

    My wife and I have been together for several years now. However, at one time in our relationship we are on and off. She pretty much left me out of the blue for no reasons. She said she needed some times to think about us. Until recently, I found out during that 3 weeks gap she hooked up with her ex-boyfriend while she was on a business trip over sea. Things are still going great, however, I felt betrayed now that I just found out. I know past is past.

    What would you do if you are in my shoes?

    [Message last modified 07-16-2012 08:40am by pimpdaddy]

    [Message last modified 07-17-2012 12:05pm by pimpdaddy]

    #1648642
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    Kadin
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    Just let it be.

    give yourself some time to be alone.
    Once you have become happy being by yourself, give yourself a chance for a new start with someone new.

    As for her….she’s the past. leave her there.

    បានចូលសាលា មានសញ្ញាប្រ័ត មិន ប្រាកដថាមានសមត្ថភាពក្នុងកិច្ចការ នោះទេ
    #1648643
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    If I haven’t found out, things would be status quo. However, I will one day eventually find out anyway. No one can keep a secret forever. I do still love her despite the fact she did me wrong.

    #1648644
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    borospailin
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    we have been married for three years and we’ve been with each other for two years now
    our relationship is still is still very strong
    *cross fingers*

    #1648645
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    toast
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    At this point in time, you have to re-evaluate yourself.
    Ask yourself these questions:
    (1) Do you you love her? Does she love you in return (in your opinion)?
    (2) Is she still have contact with that ex?
    (3) Do you feel like like you want someone else prettier and/or younger?…if u do, use that excuse to bail on her. I’m serious.

    In short, what do you really want? The ball is on your court. If u feel like divorce and feel that you deserve someone better looking than her, u can dump her. Marriage is made to be divorce. If it was me, it’s zero tolerance when it comes to infidelity.

    #1648646
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    Darony
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    what would I do if I were in your shoes? I’d walk out and never return.

    Let the Refining and Improving of your own life keep you so busy that you have little time to criticize others
    #1648647
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    if you love her you should consider the circumstances that you were not together during that 2 month period. However she is still in constant contact with that ex, than I would reconsider.

    #1648648
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    Kaliboy
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    Whoa, so she left u out of the blue to hook up with an Ex? Ouch! Well it is all up to you and what u wanna do. Does the thought of your wife doing it with another man turn u on? Then maybe u can watch her as she mounts someone else. That way, u both can be happy. However, if the idea turns u off and your the jealous type, then by all means dump her! You found out on your own that she hooked up with another dude. It’s not like she confessed and came
    clean or anything. How can u trust someone keeping secrets from u?

    #1648649
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    Darony
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    shoot..! I just reread it again after seeing BigP’s comment. I got confused and thought she cheated on you while you two were still together, but you weren’t. I take my words back. She was with her ex while you were on the off time, she’s free to date anyone she wanted-ex or not ex. Past is past, you two are together now that’s all that matters.

    Let the Refining and Improving of your own life keep you so busy that you have little time to criticize others
    #1648650
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    It was one of those circumstance which we never officially broke up. She came back and acted like everything was normal. She just said she needed her space to make sure if this is what she wanted.

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