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    rasy
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    anyone here on KC had a love one, family or friend that had an unexpected death? how did you cope with it?
    I just had my mother passed away due to an unexpected illness, a severe allergic reaction to a prescribed drug…it has been tough, just wondered if any fellow KCer’s here experience having loss a loved one as well…thanks look forward to dialoging

    Rasy

    #339596
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    reksmay
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    words cannot fully express the sorrows you must be experiencing, but please accept my condolences for your loss.

    #339605
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    Kaliboy
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    my condolences to you…

    I’ve also experienced what you’re going through. I was about 9 years old when my mother passed away from breast cancer. I didnt really understand back then. I didnt even shed a tear. At times I really wished she was with me. I always think how my life would’ve been different had she not passed. I would always pray everyday for her to get well. Every time I threw a coin down a wishing well; it would be for her to heal. She always said she wanted to travel the world once she was cured. That day never came….

    #339615
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    KomLostBong
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    That’s so SAD…May Lord God and Buddha bless her soul will be reborn in the heaven soon!!

    #339625
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    rasy
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    [i]Originally posted by Kaliboy[/i]
    my condolences to you…

    I’ve also experienced what you’re going through. I was about 9 years old when my mother passed away from breast cancer. I didnt really understand back then. I didnt even shed a tear. At times I really wished she was with me. I always think how my life would’ve been different had she not passed. I would always pray everyday for her to get well. Every time I threw a coin down a wishing well; it would be for her to heal. She always said she wanted to travel the world once she was cured. That day never came….

    thanks man, it’s a different feeling to be here with out our moms… i wanted her to what feel the warmth of holding a grandchild for the first time or watch her children get married for the first time… but she departed before all of this may happen…it’s a real hard feeling in our hearts and we will have to live with it for as long as we live, life will never be the same again…

    #339634
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    Are you still grieving? If so, let go. It does not serve you any good purpose other than creating more pain.

    I had witnessed so many deaths in my family in this life.

    I remember my mother and older brother died, at the same time unexpectedly. He was about 17. Then my grandmother uttered sadness to my neighbor, that she had much pity for me because I used to have a mother, now she was gone. The neighbor told me all about it later. Then my very grandmother too left. Then my father, and my sister. Who else? When my eldest sister died, I became the last one. My whole body was weak. I felt so empty, like a hollow tree. I left the village and walked to a rice field to be alone by myself. I sat under a tall palm tree to reflect and wiped my tears. There was no one but me, in the middle of no man’s land. At that time, I did not cry, but just felt the tears flowing down my checks like a river. I tried to stop it, but couldn’t. When I walked back home in the evening, no one was there. Slowly, I picked up a pot and cooked porridge. I ate alone. I grieved alone. I slept alone in a hammock at night under someone else’ stilt house. I was scared.

    Today, those memories are still fresh and vivid. I still picture the faces of my siblings and parents.

    The first thing to respond to this is to compose yourself. Be calm. Accept this as the true nature. When you realize this, you have found freedom. You don’t exert unnecessary pressure and force upon yourself. If you don’t, it will be like swimming upstream. How hard it is to swim upstream. You will never succeed. Let go.

    The bones of a human who is born and dies, born and dies, in a kappa will be bigger than the mountain of “vibol,” that takes a day and night to climb, and the tears will become a river larger than an immeasurable ocean, according to the Buddha.

    I am tired of this game.

    #339643
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    rasy
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    yes bro, acceptance that this is part of life does help bring some comfort… thank you for sharing

    #339656
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    Vastland
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    [i]Originally posted by rasy[/i]
    anyone here on KC had a love one, family or friend that had an unexpected death? how did you cope with it?
    I just had my mother passed away due to an unexpected illness, a severe allergic reaction to a prescribed drug…it has been tough, just wondered if any fellow KCer’s here experience having loss a loved one as well…thanks look forward to dialoging

    Rasy

    Sorry to hear about your brother. I just lost my mother a couple months ago due to heart failures. She was 77 year old. I still think about her every day. Every weeks I would go to her burial site to visit her and lay flowers there.

    #339667
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    rasy
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    sorry to hear about yours too bro… it’s good to hear other people can relate, makes yah feel less alone

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