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  • #1225903
    Avatar of Savannah_S
    Savannah_S
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    Anyone here would be bothered if the person you are going steady with still respond to their ex’s text messages and calling one another terms of endearments such as oun & bong? The guy and his ex broke up 3 yrs ago and the last time they were intimate was June 2010. You and him started dating in September. She still calls him at night ever so often. He doesn’t answer. He left his phone with you one night. The X called and you decided to answer. The X hung up after she heard your voice. Of course you can’t really put all the blame on the X because the guy you are dating probably never had closure with his X. 2 months have flown by. Then comes his birthday.

    Phone convo:
    X: happy birthday. :)
    him: aww how sweet. you remembered!
    X: Of course! Why wouldn’t i. How could I forget someone so special?

    4 months later
    X: Omg bong. My mom is in the hospital.
    him: it’s okay oun. Don’t worry about it.

    is this something to worry about?

    #1225906
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    Darony
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    worry? no, I’d just walk out….sweet talk,oun bong with the ex? please

    Let the Refining and Improving of your own life keep you so busy that you have little time to criticize others
    #1225907
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    SnowGlobe
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    They ended the relationship 3yrs ago as bf/gf but started another one as NSA (no strings attach) for another 2yrs. Just shows they’re still attached some way, form, or another. The ex-gf still got a hold on him, even if he’s too blind to see it. The girl is not legally committed to him yet, she’s able to walk away and find someone else that will love and respect her feelings.

    #1225909
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    Savannah_S
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    She was dating another guy while she was being intimate with another. He is the go-to guy when she’s stressed over Work & Fam. The girl is the one who deteriorated the relationship. He put his heart and soul into it.

    [i]Originally posted by SnowGlobe[/i]
    she’s able to walk away and find someone else that will love and respect her feelings.

    [Message last modified 11-08-2011 05:18pm by Savannah_S]

    #1225911
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    precious_rose
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    [i]Originally posted by Savannah_S[/i]

    is this something to worry about?

    Yes, there is! More than that, the X and “him” should NOT text/call/speak so often, even as friends. I don’t mind my bf speakign to an X, but it has to be to a minimum. I personally would think He and the X either does NOT have closure, or, he too still has feeling for her and would leave the relationship. I need love and respect. There doesn’t seem to be much repect here, if the bf and X are still in contact quite often. The X, she also should have RESPECT for the new girl friend ( I don’t care if you still love him, it gives you no right to call someone else’s man). Then again, the bf should know better as well and show his GF, not the X, love, RESPECT and attention. To LOVE is to RESPECT. I don’t understand people these days. *huy*:)

    I don’t know the “whole or indept” story behind the these three, so I apologize if I am jumping to conclusion. I have a tendency to do so.lol.

    Wish them luck!:)

    Please, GOD be with ME!:)
    #1225913

    AhSaren
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    Sounds like an Algebra equation.

    #1225915
    Avatar of SnowGlobe
    SnowGlobe
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    Dannng are you speaking of the current gf or the X? If its the current gf and he’s just a toy, then kudos to all and have fun messing each other up. If it’s the X…I would seriously punch her out and turn to share the anger with the current bf before I dump his behind and never look back. They deserve each other!

    Whoooa – anger issues today.

    [i]Originally posted by Savannah_S[/i]
    She was dating another guy while she was being intimate with another. He is the go-to guy when she’s stressed over Work & Fam. The girl is the one who deteriorated the relationship. He put his heart and soul into it.
    [quote]
    [i]Originally posted by SnowGlobe[/i]
    she’s able to walk away and find someone else that will love and respect her feelings.

    [Message last modified 11-08-2011 05:18pm by Savannah_S][/quote]

    #1225917
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    sampheap
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    My ex still calls me “Oun” but I call his name instead of calling him “Bong”

    You should talk to your bf and tell him what you like/dislike about him. My husband doesn’t like it when he finds out that my ex still calls me “Oun” I tell him as long as I don’t call him bong then there shouldn’t be a problem! :)

    [Message last modified 11-12-2011 08:15pm by sampheap]

    #1225919
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    Haki
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    YOU ARE MARRIED!

    AWWWWWWWW!!!!! I AM DEVASTATED!!!!! LOL!!!!!

    [i]Originally posted by sampheap[/i]
    My ex still calls me “Oun” but I call his name instead of calling him “Bong”

    You should talk to your bf and tell him what you like/dislike about him. My husband doesn’t like it when he finds out that my ex still calls me “Oun” I tell him as long as I don’t call him bong then there shouldn’t be a problem! :)

    [Message last modified 11-12-2011 08:15pm by sampheap]

    [Message last modified 11-13-2011 11:22am by Haki]

    #1225921
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    sampheap
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    Lol. You’re funny! Yes I’m married :)

    [i]Originally posted by Haki[/i]
    YOU ARE MARRIED!

    AWWWWWWWW!!!!! I AM DEVASTATED!!!!! LOL!!!!!

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    [i]Originally posted by sampheap[/i]
    My ex still calls me “Oun” but I call his name instead of calling him “Bong”

    You should talk to your bf and tell him what you like/dislike about him. My husband doesn’t like it when he finds out that my ex still calls me “Oun” I tell him as long as I don’t call him bong then there shouldn’t be a problem! :)

    [Message last modified 11-12-2011 08:15pm by sampheap]

    [Message last modified 11-13-2011 11:22am by Haki][/quote]

    #1225923
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    Haki
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    I don’t speak so much Khmer yet, sorry but I’m learning.

    But I imagine that Bong or Oun is like saying Sweetheart or Honey in English. I sure wouldn’t want my wife or girlfriend to be called that by her ex. He no longer has the right to call her that. I would want her to tell him ‘Do not call me that.’ After that, if her ex continues to call her by that name, I would step in and talk to the guy to make sure he knows who is boss.

    #1225924
    Avatar of SnowGlobe
    SnowGlobe
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    I disagree. You husband is bothered by it and yet it still persist and you’re allowing it to continue. If your ex respected your wishes and the relationship you have with your husband, your request for ‘oun’ to stop should be taken kindly.

    If my husband’s ex still called him ‘bong’ or ‘sweetie’ like she use to, I’d smack the both of them upside down. OK – maybe I won’t but it would bother me.

    [i]Originally posted by sampheap[/i]
    My ex still calls me “Oun” but I call his name instead of calling him “Bong”

    You should talk to your bf and tell him what you like/dislike about him. My husband doesn’t like it when he finds out that my ex still calls me “Oun” I tell him as long as I don’t call him bong then there shouldn’t be a problem! :)

    [Message last modified 11-12-2011 08:15pm by sampheap]

    #1225926
    Avatar of sampheap
    sampheap
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    I did ask my ex to stop calling me “oun” he said “oun” means sister to him Lol. He’s funny! Everything is good between us three because we did talk to each other and told each other what we like/dislike. My ex calls my husband “Bong, Bong”. So there’s no problem between us as long as your husband knows/understands well about you.

    [i]Originally posted by SnowGlobe[/i]
    I disagree. You husband is bothered by it and yet it still persist and you’re allowing it to continue. If your ex respected your wishes and the relationship you have with your husband, your request for ‘oun’ to stop should be taken kindly.

    If my husband’s ex still called him ‘bong’ or ‘sweetie’ like she use to, I’d smack the both of them upside down. OK – maybe I won’t but it would bother me.

    [quote]
    [i]Originally posted by sampheap[/i]
    My ex still calls me “Oun” but I call his name instead of calling him “Bong”

    You should talk to your bf and tell him what you like/dislike about him. My husband doesn’t like it when he finds out that my ex still calls me “Oun” I tell him as long as I don’t call him bong then there shouldn’t be a problem! :)

    [Message last modified 11-12-2011 08:15pm by sampheap]

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    #1225928
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    sapphirise
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    well oun and bong mean 2 different thing depending on the relationship

    oun bong between couple means dear, honey, sweetheart, etc

    oun bong between a sister/bro/cousin/friend nothing to worry here if each individual know what is what

    pple who r older than u, they call u oun (little brother/sister)
    ppe who r younger than u, they call u bong (bigger brother/sister)

    so khmer bong oun is difficult to tell if stranger hear it between a guy and a girl but only u know who’s who.

    I have a friend who call every girl younger than him oun. at first it bother me but that is how he is. i call my friends bong too because i regards them as my bigger brother and i respect them. if i regards them as a friend only but not a brother i call their name.

    [Message last modified 11-16-2011 04:35am by sapphirise]

    #1225930
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    RoyalOrient
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    walk away….too much drama to stay in this relationship. He needs to understand the boundaries have already been crossed with the constant texting and the sweet terms of endearments being used.

    #1225932
    Avatar of BophaSeanghong
    BophaSeanghong
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    absolutely me. oun bong sa-ey, even texting is not allowed. thank you.

    [i]Originally posted by Darony[/i]
    worry? no, I’d just walk out….sweet talk,oun bong with the ex? please

    #1225934
    Avatar of Darony
    Darony
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    yep, once he texts,calls, or shares his feelings with another woman, he is cheating…your life is much better without him- a cheater.

    [i]Originally posted by BophaSeanghong[/i]
    absolutely me. oun bong sa-ey, even texting is not allowed. thank you.
    [quote]
    [i]Originally posted by Darony[/i]
    worry? no, I’d just walk out….sweet talk,oun bong with the ex? please

    [/quote]

    Let the Refining and Improving of your own life keep you so busy that you have little time to criticize others
    #1225936
    Avatar of Haki
    Haki
    Participant

    I agree, Darony. Although there is no physical connection, clearly the mental intent is there and that’s just as bad.

    [i]Originally posted by Darony[/i]
    yep, once he texts,calls, or shares his feelings with another woman, he is cheating…your life is much better without him- a cheater.
    [quote]
    [i]Originally posted by BophaSeanghong[/i]
    absolutely me. oun bong sa-ey, even texting is not allowed. thank you.
    [quote]
    [i]Originally posted by Darony[/i]
    worry? no, I’d just walk out….sweet talk,oun bong with the ex? please

    [/quote]
    [/quote]

    #1225938
    Avatar of Microphone909
    Microphone909
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    [i]Originally posted by Savannah_S[/i]
    Anyone here would be bothered if the person you are going steady with still respond to their ex’s text messages and calling one another terms of endearments such as oun & bong? The guy and his ex broke up 3 yrs ago and the last time they were intimate was June 2010. You and him started dating in September. She still calls him at night ever so often. He doesn’t answer. He left his phone with you one night. The X called and you decided to answer. The X hung up after she heard your voice. Of course you can’t really put all the blame on the X because the guy you are dating probably never had closure with his X. 2 months have flown by. Then comes his birthday.

    Phone convo:
    X: happy birthday. :)
    him: aww how sweet. you remembered!
    X: Of course! Why wouldn’t i. How could I forget someone so special?

    4 months later
    X: Omg bong. My mom is in the hospital.
    him: it’s okay oun. Don’t worry about it.

    is this something to worry about?

    Personally I don’t think their over each other. If it really bothers you that he still talks to his ex you should definitely let him know.

    #1225940
    Avatar of kimpirun98
    kimpirun98
    Participant

    How come life is so complicated and related or mixed to many races???
    You’re NOT Jennifer Lopezz…

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